Just like undoing a big phone cord or a big string Christmas lights, it’s a process and can’t be done instantly. The alternative that I'm putting forward is untangling a habit, which sets up an entirely different expectation. That's not the right expectation for most habits. The way we use the term today implies that you put in a lot of force, in a single moment, and by doing that, you're done-the habit is broken and resolved. And the reason I'm going after it is because it sets up the wrong expectation of how to actually rid yourself of unwanted behavior.
Wilding: Why do you say we can never “break” a habit?įogg: The phrase “break a habit” has been with us for a long, long time. Habits that are related to things we really want are the easiest to form. Spend some time and reflection writing down different things that you want. Building your business network is different from making more money. What is it that you want? Reducing stress at work is different than being more productive. Think about what you really want, that tiny first step, which is clarifying your aspiration. So don't think yet about the specific habits, like “I'm going to read 60 minutes a day”.
Wilding: Where do you start when it comes to developing new work habits?įogg: The first place to start is to get clear on what you really want. Other people want to look at how to reduce their work stress and how they can avoid letting the stress of the day affect their personal life, which are big and hard to achieve goals because we don’t have many role models. What worked best was when people said they wanted to be more productive in things that mattered to them. And it turns out, that while productivity means different things to different people, we identified that phrasing matters. In my lab, we did three studies about how people aspire to change. That's not a habit, but it's an aspiration that people have. Wilding: What are some of the most common work or professional related habits you see people trying to develop?įogg: Productivity is very high on the list.
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